Speaking up is hard to do, even when you know you should. Learn how to assert yourself, navigate tricky social situations and expand your personal power with sage guidance from social psychologist Adam Galinsky.
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People confuse being aggressive with being assretive. Being rude with asserting. Lots of introverts can’t do it, but it is a skill not a god given talent, and it can be developed and improved.
This Ted talk has a fascinating take on assetiveness – which is to link your opportunity to assert to power. It’s really interesting. The key is how powerful you are “seen” to be (by yourself and by others). The simple idea of advocating is what I take away – it’s a brilliant reset.
Ways to ensure you’re heard when you speak up:
1) Advocate for others
2) Perspective taking (understand what others really want)
3) Give more options (signal flexibility)
4) Earn allies by advocating for others and asking others for advice (even for self promotion with our accomplishments)
5) Show your expertise by showing your passion
Andy